Alexandrea Day founded iAffirm in 2020 to ensure that Adaptive Therapy would carry on after she could no longer, it being her vehicle to carry her legacy. She formed a 501 (c) 3 non-profit and donated her training, books, and process to it. Her story of Adaptive therapy’s birth follows:
In 1984, I met and ultimately married Dr. Wayne Topping, who introduced me to alternative methods of healing that are the foundation of Adaptive Therapy today. I knew from the moment I met him and saw what he did, that he had some of the answers I’d been looking for. Even more incredibly, he had a method I could use to access my own self-knowledge. His work included applied kinesiology, Biokinesiology, EduKinesiology, and Touch for Health. These healing methods worked quite well for me, diminishing lingering chest pains from the heart attack, and ridding me of my allergies and many of the other illnesses that I periodically experienced. My son also no longer suffered from asthma as a result of this work. I found the methods to have some profound effects, in addition to being easily administered and safe. Contact with this work empowered me to begin my own healing from within. But even at the time, I had a sense that deeper work could be done.
I also found that the techniques used were limited when it came to working with other people. I saw the same Western, mechanistic, medical model that I had experienced being applied to clients, a hierarchical system where the facilitator is the “expert”, and the client has to trust the knowledge of the “healer.” I struggled with this aspect, as well as with my belief that the methods addressed feelings at the behavioral level. I decided to reshape the work to include what I considered to be a more ethical, self-responsible approach: empowering clients by putting them in charge of their own healing and out of the hands of practitioners. I also decided to research the depth of emotions to discover where they originated and what I needed to do to change them. I wanted to be healed to my core! This turned out to be a monumental task, as I found no other model to follow. I struck out, on my own, as a pioneer.
In 2000 I closed the school deciding to start living the purpose I’d created and moved into technology, inventing, building software with my team, and learning how to scale a business. This experience, now blended with my years of performing and teaching self-healing, allows me to now invent a way to make self-help available to all, globally, and affordably, hence tools and techniques to augments therapy sessions for faster results. That’s what clients want, results. I’m committed to deliver.
Thus, this new Adaptive Therapy training is born. The belief that each of us contains an inner wisdom with the power to direct our healing process is the premise upon which Adaptive Therapy is founded. This inner wisdom can be described in many ways including the conscience, subconscious, personal truth, inner knowing, the observer, the Soul, higher Self; whatever term helps people trust the process. Therefore, Adaptive Therapy is the practice of interpreting and communicating in its language. This ability to directly communicate with ourselves, in words, with our inner knowing has been inaccessible until Adaptive Therapy. Through working with our inner knowing, each of us is led to our own self-knowledge and methods for health and healing with the goal of discovering one’s purpose for being alive.
After learning and synthesizing many alternative techniques, I established a private practice in 1985. I worked primarily with individuals, both in a homebased setting and later in a large center with other practitioners. I saw up to seven people a day, five days a week, utilizing applied kinesiology to access a person’s personal truth. Ninety percent of the work with clients was emotionally based, similar to what I had found when working on my own self-healing. By the early 1990s, I was receiving many requests from people wanting me to teach them what I knew. Out of this grew a training program as a Washington State licensed vocational school. The program focused on mastery of the techniques, principles, philosophy, and theories that support a practitioner in bringing forth a respectable, authentic, and highly effective method of self-healing to the community.
Therapists applying adaptive therapy techniques and tools learn how to set ego and intellect aside and come from authenticity clearing for a client to externalize his/her truth. This modality is one of few that require personal application of the work to succeed at coaching others. A therapist can only take a client where they themselves have journeyed. This journey, using Adaptive Therapy for Self-realization, may indeed be strenuous and intense, but the outcome is well worth the effort—living with purpose.
Adaptive Therapy has changed my life from a certain path toward an early death to a life of joy and privilege—the privilege of knowing and sharing Adaptive Therapy with thousands of others. Many people are being drawn to this modality that is respectful of the individual, insightful, quick, safe, and self-applicable. Anyone can learn the simple techniques, apply them, unraveling their path to purpose.