The cornerstone of Adaptive Therapy is the re-programming of perceptions from harmful or self-limiting to positive and empowering. We have helped thousands of people and are now packaging it to address core beliefs that underlie stress. Why stress?
Stress is the leading reason why people go to the doctor and is a factor in all of the top disease conditions people die from. Beliefs like, “Life is hopeless,” causes stress and contributes to unexplained aches and pains that the patient interprets as illness and makes a doctor appointment. Most often it’s not validated no matter how many tests are performed. Yes, a doctor could prescribe an anti-depressant but our experience proves that there is a better way – changing one’s mindset from, “Life is hopeless,” to “Life is full of hope.” Additionally, we explore why this belief is in place – what is causing this perception, the core issue. We also help improve performance as well as help unravel a person’s path to their purpose.
The process includes relaxation and mindfulness deep breathing while repeating formulated affirmations to change perceptions and core beliefs. The first affirmation would be to de-program it, “I no longer feel that life is hopeless,” followed by the positive, “I feel that life is full of hope.” This is repeated two times a day for two weeks to make the change. The brain likes repetition to reinforce the replaced unconscious agenda.
The reason we use the words, “I no longer feel,” and “I feel,” triggers the body/mind to receive the affirmations because “to feel” is interpreted as an experience, improving learning since long term memory is encoded similarly. This scientific article supports the process we’ve built.
A big area of stress for working families is the juggling of home and work. While economics often drive one’s work life it’s also possible that workaholic behavior or the pursuit of excessive wants that drives it instead. If this is true, to reduce stress it makes sense to change the core issue driving the behavior. The same goes for “feeling” irritated when driving during heavy traffic. Why do you feel that way? Change the why and enjoy the travel you must do and bring along audio tapes or practice a new language while driving. Changing behavior without changing the reason why is almost impossible without setting oneself up for either failure or dissonance for violating what is believed, resulting in more stress. Discovering and changing the reason why is what Adaptive Therapy is all about.
How you were raised probably has the most impact on the way you view the world; how you function in it, or not. It is best to take personal inventory of the unconscious agendas you adhere to from your family of origin and work your way thru them to change those that block you, many you will not consciously know. A good example is if your parent didn’t affirm your being, it will be difficult in adulthood to allow yourself to be affirmed. If you felt neglected, you’re probably now neglect yourself and push other away that attempt to nurture you. Parental modeling has a huge impact on each of us before we even have memory of our childhood. Discovering and changing the reason why is what Adaptive Therapy is all about.
A good example of social stress can be seen with the current political division occurring across the country. While each person may feel that their reason for feeling the way they do is 100% legitimate, a key pillar of this self-assessment and changing of core beliefs is that hate or dislike about someone else, is truly a reflection of one’s own beliefs that need to be modified. For example, hating it that people have to be right means you also, have the belief that you have to be right. After all it’s programmed into us from early on. Once changed the strong emotional feeling that causes stress will dissipate. You can also become part of the solution instead of taking a side that spurs further division. Paying attention to negative emotions that bubble up, will help you identify and change self-harming or limiting core beliefs.
Another cornerstone of Adaptive Therapy is that if you can inherit disease from your parents, you can also inherit limited beliefs. It may seem that these are out of your control but you can discover and change the reason why you believe them. A good example is being the child of parents born in a country that does not allow free speech. Children of these parents could inherit the core belief that, “I must keep quiet.” As long as you remain quiet you are compliant to your programming. Violate it and you will experience a negative feeling such as ashamed, embarrassed, or even fearful, depending upon what your parent felt if they were to speak up. What this all means is we are very sophisticated computing systems that run 90% on programming, much programmed before we are even conscious of, including inherited beliefs. Self-assessment and reprogramming negative core beliefs leads to health and well-being.
FAILS, LOSS & ACHIEVEMENT DEFICIT
While many of us will fulfill our own self-fulling prophecies behaviorally from our “programmed” perceptions and core beliefs underlying them, we do create new ones about ourselves as we navigate thru life. Humans are built and programmed to survive so whatever messaging is required to do that, the body will record and execute. It takes an event of significant impact (emotional) to register. Trauma imprints new behavior without a doubt but short of that, other events create new beliefs as well. An example would be trying something brand new and failing whether it’s water skiing or having your partner leave you. These events impact us and can lead to self-doubt or fear of trying anything new again. Assessing and changing self-limiting perceptions and core beliefs will free you to find purpose in your life.
Anyone that has experienced trauma can relate to how he/she has changed as a result of it whether surviving a fire, a mass shooting event or rape. You know you are guarded; you can feel your automatic response when triggered. And many things can trigger you. An example of a fire and how it will affect a victim for years includes every possible association with it. This means any smell of smoke you will look for fire. You will sometimes even imagine the smell of smoke and go look. When you see a design on a wall or door, a shadow, you will think you see smoke, all of this happening while your heart is pounding. If the fire experienced was from a wildfire during a wind event then you will always fear fire when it’s windy. A chimney fire, you will never be able to use a fireplace again. Why does this happen? Because the pain, trauma and loss from a fire is so devastating that your programming says, this cannot ever happen again to you and will do everything possible to warn you away from anything that is related to it. We can be emotionally destroyed and that, to the body/mind is something to protect against. Rape victims – this is why it takes so long to heal from it – especially if you’ve never told anyone. You were so emotionally destroyed, powerless, that from that day forward your body/mind will do everything possible to make you avoid it ever again. By identifying and changing these newly-developed perceptions and core beliefs to operate from, created as a result of trauma, albeit difficult, can be changed and free you from remaining a hostage to it.